Explore with me a little bit.
In looking up some popular quotes on manhood, I couldn’t escape the concept of strength, war, and suffering. Why?
“Adversity toughens manhood, and the characteristic of the good or the great man is not that he has been exempt from the evils of life, but that he has surmounted them” (Patrick Henry).
“…We (modern society) make men without chests and expect of them virtue and enterprise. We laugh at honor and are shocked to find traitors in our midst. We castrate and bid the geldings be fruitful” (C.S. Lewis).
“In the meanest are all the materials of manhood, only they are not rightly disposed” (Henry David Thoreau).
“[Battle] brings out all that is best; it removes all that is base. All men are afraid in battle. The coward is the one who lets his fear overcome his sense of duty. Duty is the essence of manhood” (General George S. Patton).
“A man must at times be hard as nails: willing to face up to the truth about himself, and about the woman he loves, refusing compromise when compromise is wrong. But he must also be tender. No weapon will breach the armor of a woman’s resentment like tenderness” (Elisabeth Elliot).
Though all people face challenges and adversity, men are defined through it. How they respond, how they love, and how their strength comes through- when it does to the benefit of a greater purpose- is manhood at its best.
Thus, I believe that one of the best features of a man, when lived properly, is utilizing strength and evoking it in others. This is often reduced merely to a show of muscle or forceful behavior. But a man who uses his strength well will sacrifice for the good of others, will boost others to achieve higher goals, and will welcome pain and suffering upon himself if it means the greater good of those he loves and seeks to care for.
“No man has ever risen to the stature of spiritual manhood until he has found that it is finer to serve somebody else than it is to serve himself” (Woodrow Wilson).
Our culture is in crisis for men who are men. And I am not talking about work on a battlefield, doing manual labor, or loving UFC fights. How can you display strength for the good and benefit of others and for a greater purpose? For a lot of you, I have raised more questions than I have answered. That’s a little bit of the point. When a man uses strength well, he will also lead others well.
In Part IV, we will explore Purpose #2: Men are built to LEAD in some fashion.