Last month’s newsletter introduced Dr. Carnes’ 12 Dimensions of Courtship. Following up with some questions that were asked, I want to note that these are not stages in the sense of literal steps, but more “aspects” and “dimensions.” A great question that was asked by readers was something akin to, “Why is commitment listed as one of the last steps?” This is where I want to be very clear and state that commitment is VERY important (research-wise AND faith-wise) as a relationship develops, andespecially before foreplay and intercourse. Getting right down to it, intimacy requires trust and safety. If we get technical, being a committed person is an important trait to have before Dimension 1. Carnes’ dimensions are also interchangeable with one another. I hope this provides clarity. Thanks for listening, and always feel free to pass on your thoughts and questions!