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In Pursuit Of A Better Mood: When Psychology Misses the Point

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Are you “addicted” to having a good mood?  The all-out fascination with having a good mood might be distracting you from living meaningfully.

What is your highest priority?  Relationships?  Money?  Status?  Fun?  God?  Adventure?  Let’s get honest- if pushed and prodded, what is your greatest care?  What do you spend the most time thinking about?

Too often, we are sold a shallow mantra: “As long as you’re happy.”  “Do whatever makes you feel good.”  Much of advertising, promotion, and sales center on these mantras (including counseling).  From landscaping to love, if we can feel better as a result, why not do it?

The problem is, the elusive search for the “holy grail” of our lives can often end bitterly.  Why?  People often don’t get happy by pursuing it alone.  Happiness doesn’t come as a result of selfish hoarding (just type in “research on happiness” in a search engine).  People who only care about their happiness have a name- they’re called narcissists and self-absorbed.  I have been- and can be- this type of person.  There is a better way.

Psychology, though I love it so, misses the point when it answers life’s biggest questions with: “Does it make you happy?”  How about, “Who am I?”  “What do I want to be known for?”  “What is God’s will?”  “What is my purpose?”

Don’t let yourself be reduced to a bottom-feeder by taking what comes your way.  Look deeper.  You are valuable and fascinating and unique and amazing.  YOU.  Created in God’s image.  Filled with purpose.  Now go get ’em.

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Spiritual Growth For The New Year

Complacency is not befitting of spiritual growth.  That’s why I ask myself several questions that I hope you’ll consider asking yourself.  These are not new questions.  Philosophy and Theology have asked several core and BIG questions like these for centuries:

How do you know that what you know is true (epistemology)?

Where did I come from (ontology)?

What is my purpose (teleology)?

What happens to me when I die (eschatology)?

What if I’m wrong (humility)?

What am I willing to stake on it?  Can I afford to be wrong (risk)?

What has shaped my views- family, culture, practicality, spiritual transformation, comfort, hurt, success (influence)?

Could I be wrong (probability)?

Does what I believe in accomplish what it promises (congruency)?

Is there a Higher Being in the universe (theology)?

Am I being honest (honesty)?

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Five WORST Ways To Job Hunt

Some of your best guesses might be, well, not good ones.  Just because your ideas are intuitive and creative does not mean they will land you a job.  

According to the world’s most popular career manual, What Color Is Your Parachute- 2012 (pp. 58-68), Richard Nelson Bolles identifies a 4-10% rate of success finding a job through an employer’s internet job posting.  At a 7% success rate is mailing/posting your resume to an employer.  Also successful 7% of the time is answering ads in professional journals in your field.  5-24% goes to local newspaper ads.  Finally, going to firms or agencies that search for you only bags a 5-28% rate.  

Finding your passion, what you are good at, and what “makes you tick” are no small tasks.  Seeking out a trained career counselor can be an important first step in figuring out not only your next job, but why you do what you do and finding fulfillment in it.  There are various approaches used, involving everything from career and personality testing to addressing barriers of substance abuse and mental health problems.  

Okay, so what are  the MOST successful ways to land a job?  1)  33% rate of success: ask for leads from friends, family, and staff at career centers.  2) 47% success: Literally show up at a place that interests you and knock on the door.  3)  65%: after locating places of interest through Yellow Pages, etc., call or visit employers in that field and ask if the type of position you do well is hiring.  4)  70%: doing #4 while in a group with other job-hunters.  5)  Finally, at a whopping 86% success rate is doing an inventory of yourself.  

There are no magic bullets.  No quick fixes.  These approaches take work and dedication.  Check out Bolles’ book for more detailed information.  The worst thing you can do is go at this alone!

 

 

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